Who is wise and understanding among you?
By his good conduct, let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom.
But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
When I feel wronged it is hard to go to the Word. I'd rather just feel wronged and let it ferment into a thickened agent ready for that sweet but subtle martyr-like whine.
Something funny; lately, when I feel wronged I think, "Be like Go Eunsung." (from the Kdrama. Isn't that super dorky? But she is so "good" - even when she's wronged. And she has the right idea). I will try.
Better yet, I'll go talk to James. He has much to say. And the wrongs against me pale against the wrongs and deceits in my own heart.